To the wives: Seduce your husbands

Todays husband hack is a post for the lady readers.

I love it when TJ seduces me. I love when she plans something in the bedroom. Not because it’s anything extra special but because it sends me a message. It tells me that she desires me and wants to be with me.

I know that I find a joy and a contentment in being desired by my wife. Having her being willing to initiate sex tells me that she loves me and loves being with me. It lets me know that she’s as committed to me as I am to her in a way that words can’t express. She’s willing to let me see her at her most vulnerable.

It also tells me that she trusts me. I know that when she says she wants to make love, that she’s saying I trust you with my heart. I know that you’re going to care for it and while you may fail me, you won’t intentionally hurt me.

It also changes my attitude towards TJ. Knowing she wants to be with me, makes me want to work that much harder to keep her interested in me. It motivates me to do more romantic things for her.

In the end, sex almost always improves a marriage relationship. No matter who initiates it, sex can help to keep the fires of passion burning in a relationship. When TJ intiates it though, it brings an extra element of desiring and contentment. It also helps to reaffirm the trust we have in each other.

I don’t expect TJ to initiate every time or even often. But every once in awhile it is a nice change of pace.

Do you seduce your husband?
Does it make your relationship stronger?
What other benefits do you see when you seduce your husband?

Are you a jerk for Christ?

Steve Martin in The Jerk
Are you a jerk for the sake of your faith? Do you condemn those around you whenever they do something wrong because they’re obviously in sin? Is it better to correct a brother or condemn a brother? Is there a difference? Is it better to be theologically sound with everyone around you or to act in love for the sake of Christ?

In my own faith journey, I started out as someone who wanted to always be theologically sound. I think I believed in my heart of hearts that being a Christian meant always doing the right thing and then showing off my polished self to God. I didn’t want to have to rely on Christ. I wanted to be able to save myself.

In the last few years, I’ve slowly been coming to the realization that I really can’t save myself. As much as I want to be the strong man for TJ, I’m doing more harm than good by pretending. It’s only by God’s saving grace through Jesus Christ that I can be saved.

How then I can be condemning and ungracious towards others when I’ve been shown so much grace? How can I not show love to others around me when I know the depth of my own wickedness that’s been forgiven?

This is not meant to be a “we’re all horrible people” blog post but it’s supposed to serve as a reminder to how great and loving our God is. How can we not share that love with those around us?

I think sharing the love and grace of Christ with those around us matters a lot more to God than condemning sin every single time it comes up in the lives of those around us. Yes, there is a place for speaking the truth in love but there are times when showering people in grace is more important than convicting them of sin. That is the job of the Holy Spirit. Our job is to simply be available.

Have you been a jerk to someone because they were in sin?
Did it hurt or help their relationship with Christ?
Did it hurt or help YOUR relationship with Christ?