When was the last time you went on a date? What was it? Was it a movie? Dinner? Did it end with a long walk along the river or beach? Did you take your wife out because you wanted to or because she nagged enough?
There needs to be an element of romance to your relationship. Hence why I am continuing my series on the Husband Romance Toolkit. I want to take some time to talk about the importance of a date night and then give you some tips that have worked for my wife and I.
Why is a date night so important?
I think a date night is important because it allows you and your spouse to connect that isn’t the place where you live. It’s certainly possible to connect at home but when you’re on a date, you’re not in the same place where you may have been fighting earlier in the day, you don’t have to stare at the dishes that are sitting in the sink, you don’t have to be reminded about the laundry when you walk around the corner, you don’t even have to deal with the kids. It’s a chance for you guys to get out and see places that are not the walls inside your home. Creating that space, even if it’s just for a few hours can help everyone forget about the stresses of home and just relax.
The big thing with this, is you need to be into it. You can’t just take her just to take her. You need to want to enjoy it with her. Don’t do it half-assed. She can tell and it’ll make her feel like you don’t value her or your marriage. This doesn’t mean you have to say “YES!” to whatever she’s asking to do, but be willing to compromise. Who knows?! Maybe you’ll enjoy going for a walk or painting pottery!
Here are some ideas of great dates that’ll make her smile
- Dinner and a movie – The old stand by. Dinner at some higher scale restaurant and then a movie afterwards. This can be great but movies will limit the amount of conversation you guys have. I also suggest doing something other than an action or horror movie (unless she wants to go see it). Movie choice is one of the moments where we need to be compromising.
- Picnic in the park – This is another classic date but a great one. This very open ended because you get to spend time together outside in a very open space. Pack a lunch and enjoy each other’s company. Maybe bring a frisbee to toss around or some bread to feed ducks. While this is a very simple date, the value for your relationship can be great because there’s not much to distract you from each other
- Dancing lessons – A great way to spend time in each others arms learning a new activity together. This is also great because you can practice at home.
- Take a walk – Just take an evening or an afternoon and just go walking. Spend the time reconnecting and enjoying each other’s company. Walks are great because it’s just the two of you AND you’re improving your overall health by walking.
- Paint pottery together – I know here in Spokane we have a couple of different places that allow you to buy and paint your pottery. This is great because you’ll get to take home physical reminders of that day and you can remember it each time you see that cup or bowl or whatever else you can make. To be honest, my wife loves it but I haven’t made this into a date for us. I’m excited to do it though!
- Read to each other – Take an afternoon and just sit down reading the same book together. While it’s not something that’ll get you out of the house it is a chance to connect in a way other than physical. Take turns either reading a chapter or two. You’ll be amazed at how much fun it actually is. My wife and I did this once on a train while we were dating. We read through an entire book on our train ride. It was AWESOME
- Geocaching – While I haven’t personally done this, my sister-in-law and her husband love it. Geocaching is where you’re given clues about where a container or “cache” is and you use those clues to find it. It usually involves some type of coordinates so a GPS is required. I intend to try this soon so I’ll let ya’ll know how it goes.
So those are some of my ideas for dates, I’d love to hear yours. Feel free to share them in the comments below!