I’ve spent most of the life of this blog talking to the married men, but I’d like to take a moment to talk to the people that read this blog that are not married, yet.
Do yourself a favor: don’t settle. It’s not worth it. If you’re in a relationship and know the person you’re with isn’t the one you’re going to marry, don’t waste their time, or yours. Break it off now and move on. It’s better to have the pain of a break up now, than the pain of a divorce later. Especially after 2 or 3 kids…
I’ve known so many people that have settled and it completely destroys their lives. Save yourself the trouble and wait for God to point out the right one for you.
If you’re planning on getting married to someone, great! That’s exciting! Ask yourself: Why are you getting married? What’s your goal? Take the time to think on that.
If you’re getting married because it’ll make you happy, I strongly urge you to reconsider. Please understand that my marriage makes me VERY happy. It is one of the best things that ever happened to me. But know that marriage is work. A lot of work. It’s challenging but it’s SO worth it, if you’re willing to put in the work. There will be times where you won’t be happy with your spouse, or yourself. And if you’re going into marriage with the wrong attitude, you’re not going to want to stick around.
I guess my point in all of this is don’t add to the statistics of marriages that end in divorce. Take the time to talk with your significant other and make sure you both have the same ideas about what marriage is and that you’re both in it for the long haul. You don’t have to agree with me about my views on marriage, but make sure you’re both on the same page so you both know where you’re going.