A strong marriage is built upon trust, communication, and mutual respect (and love of course). A marriage is a partnership. But if marriage is a partnership, why are men called to be the leaders? Aren’t the two things mutually exclusive?
I say, not necessarily.
When men are called to lead, it’s not to be the exclusive decision maker. In fact I don’t think being a leader has anything to do with the decision making process. Look at the life of Christ: He lead His disciples by being their servant. He lead by example; by living each day trusting in God in all things.
As leaders, God is expecting us to trust in Him completely and then show our families what that looks like. We are to provide an example to our kids and our wives of what a strong and healthy relationship with Christ looks like. We must lead our families by being the first to go down the road of spiritual growth.
Spiritual leadership does not mean a dictator but someone who follows Christ in hopes that the others will follow you.
The part of this that has been impressed on me lately is what a huge responsibility it is to be the spiritual head of a family. God expects us to lead our families into a strong relationship with Him and we’re going to held accountable for the job that we did or didn’t do.
I have to confess that I am failing A LOT in this area. I have had a hard time initiating times spent together talking about our faith and what God is doing in our lives. I have difficulty initiating prayer time together. I’m not certain how I got to that point because I used to pray with my wife all the time while we were dating. I’m not certain what changed but I know I have a very hard time initiating it.
So I’m wondering if you have any tips or suggestions on ways to lead your family in their growth? Where do you start? What tips or ideas do you have for new husbands on leading and developing a family’s spiritual growth? Share your ideas in the comments below or connect with me on Twitter or Facebook.