I’m a gleek. I admit it. I LOVE that show. It’s awesome because the music is incredible. I really enjoy watching that show.
One reason I like Glee is because it deals with issues that are really important and hit close to home, especially for most young people today. In an episode during the second season called Born This Way, one of the main characters (Rachel) was tempted to get a nose job. She wanted to have a face like the head Cheerleader named Quinn. At one point in the show, they sing a song called I feel Pretty/Unpretty. It’s a great mash-up of Unpretty by TLC and I Feel Pretty from West Side Story. It blew my mind the first time I heard it.
After thinking about it for a bit, I realized that women have a really hard job thrust upon them by the world. They got bombarded with messages every day about how they need to look a certain way or be a certain size. I fee like a lot of that is because of us men not standing up and telling women that they’re beautiful. I am ashamed to admit that I have participated in this culture on more than one occasion. There is so much pressure on girls to be a certain size or look a certain way and, I think that some of it comes from a desire to make their man happy.
On more than one occasion my wife has gotten dressed up and I ask her why and all she says is “I want to look good for my man.” It makes me happy that my wife cares enough to make herself look good and wants to get dressed up for me. It makes me feel really special. And my wife looks great! She does such an awesome job of dressing up when she does it.
I hope someday that I can show my daughters that they don’t need to be a size 0 to make their man happy.
What would have caused something like this to happen? This emphasis on being skinny and sexy and visually appealing ALL the time; where did it come from?
I think it came from us men. Us men not standing up for our women and defending our women. Why is plastic surgery such a booming insustry? Because we can’t lead our women and tell them every day that they’re beautiful. There’s not a day that goes by that I don’t tell my wife she’s loved or that she’s beautiful. It’s taken a long time to undo some of the programming by the world but she’s slowly but surely realizing that she is beautiful: that God has made her unique and wonderful and special. As a husband and leader, it’s my job to remind her of that every day.
I was able to find a clip of the song from that episode and I highly encourage you to watch it. I’ve embedded the video into the post for you to watch. Listen to the lyrics and think about how you can encourage your wife and show her how beautiful she really is.